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The Warm Ups

Who Are We

HMNI | Who We Are

HMNI stands for Hello, my name is! This is the first chat we will share and during this chat we will get to know you, your partner and your relationship. We will discuss topics ranging from your favorite adventures to how you work through challenges together. Below are 8 of my 16 questions for you to discuss together to get "warmed up" for this chat.

The Fun & Easy

Lighthearted questions to get your story flowing.

Tell me about how you met and your first impression?
What about your first date made you want to know them more?
What is your favorite shared hobby or small daily ritual?
Which house chore do you both try to avoid, and who usually surrenders first?
Share a favorite food memory — cozy meals, chaotic attempts, take-out traditions.
What’s your go-to comfort movie, show, or shared “lazy day” ritual?

Getting to Know You More

Questions to understand your personalities and dynamic in a deeper, more magical way.

Introduce me to your fiancé as if writing the back cover of a book or the trailer of a Netflix series.
What small, everyday gesture do they do that makes you feel deeply loved?
What is something quirky, odd, or endearing about your connection that most people don’t know?
What three words best describe your relationship’s energy?
Tell me about your favorite adventure together — whether epic or beautifully mundane.
Tell me about a moment where you felt proud of them or grateful for them.
If your love story were represented by an element (Earth, Air, Fire, Water, or Spirit), which would it be and why?

What Is Love | Lil Deets

In the What Is Love chat we discuss two very different topics: how we want your ceremony to sound, flow and feel, and all of the little fun bits of your relationship. This is the second chat we will share and during this chat we will get to know ceremony structure, vernacular, traditional and nontraditional options. Then we will bounce back to discuss your love story a little more, this time, in the tiny moments and inside jokes, nicknames and favorite shows. Below are 12 of my 25 questions for you to discuss together to get "warmed up" for this chat.

The Down Deep (Shadow & Growth)

These help me show the resilience and truth of your bond.

What is something you’ve learned about yourself through this relationship?
What is a challenge you have overcome together?
After disagreements, what helps you reconnect or repair?
What goofy or maddening habit do they have that drives you absolutely wild?
What is something you admire in your partner that you hope to learn or grow into?
What shared value, lesson, or vow feels spiritually important to both of you?

The Ceremony (Crafting the Ritual)

Pagan-friendly options for crafting tone, atmosphere, and symbolism.

Describe your ceremony site — what does the land feel like? What season? What natural elements are present?
How would you like me to address your guests? (Beloved family and friends, honored witnesses, circle of love, etc.)

Would you like:

An opening grounding, meditation, or elemental blessing?
An announcement for an unplugged or mindful ceremony?
Are you drawn to specific rituals? (Handfasting, unity candle, shared cup, blessing of the four directions, knot tying, bread or wine ritual, circle casting, etc.)
Is family involvement important? Any readings, blessings, or moments of acknowledgment?
Do you envision your ceremony as mostly humorous, solemn, enchanting, whimsical, reverent, or a mix?

The Script: Language & Vows

Let’s shape wording that feels authentic to your path.
For vows or ring exchanges, do you prefer something traditional, fully custom, or spiritually themed (elemental, ancestral, nature-based)?
How should I pronounce or introduce you as a married pair?

(Husband & wife, spouses in life, beloved partners, bonded souls, eternal companions, etc.)
Is anyone taking a new name? How would you like that honored or announced (if at all)?
Are you writing your own vows?
1. If yes: private, exchanged during ceremony, or both?
Any particular colors or clothing style you prefer I wear to match the theme?
Who will hold the rings?
Day-of contact person?
My tasks: signing license, coordinating ritual materials, gathering families, etc.
Confirm time, location, and any nature-based considerations (wind, candles, accessibility, weather plans).

Pagan Ceremony Specific Additions

(Only if they resonate!)

Are there deities, guides, ancestors, or spirits of place you’d like acknowledged?
Is there a seasonal festival or sabbat energy inspiring your ceremony (Beltane, Lammas, Samhain, etc.)?
Would you like elemental invocations or a circle opening/closing?
Are there symbols, colors, herbs, crystals, or animals meaningful to your relationship?